Good morning Bitachon of the day ❤️
Today I started to read to find what I should write on my Bitachon, and I came across this powerful story.
“One day, a young boy came home from school with a note for his mother. He gave it to her with a smile, and said, “My teacher gave me this paper and told me to give it only to you.” His mother read the letter quickly, and her eyes filled with tears as she then read the letter out loud to her son. “Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him, and the teachers are not qualified to teach him. Please educate him yourself.” His parents embraced this mission, teaching him and raising him to become one of the greatest thinkers of his time. He became a leading innovator, a Torah sage, and inspired an entire generation. Years later, after his mother passed away, he was going through some old family documents. He noticed a folded paper in the corner of a drawer, and curiously opened it.
On the paper was written, “Your son is mentally incapable. The teachers do not want to teach him anymore. Please educate him yourself.” He cried as he remembered his mother reading the letter to him, realizing the positive impact it had on his life. That night, he wrote in his diary: “I was a mentally incapable child, but because of my hero mother, I became the person I am today.” This is the power of words. The words of his teachers could have destroyed him, but the words of his mother supported, empowered, and enabled him.”
This important message illustrates the power of words: they can destroy someone, but they can also make them the most powerful person.
Words are powerful because they shape our thoughts, influence our emotions, and affect our actions. They can build up or tear down, inspire or discourage, and connect or divide people. Words can communicate love, support, and encouragement, fostering positive relationships and personal growth. Conversely, they can also spread hate, fear, and negativity, causing harm and division. The impact of words often lasts long after they are spoken, making them a potent tool for both good and harm.
Raising my kids wasn't easy, especially since they are all a year apart and I had no family to help and support me. I often lost my temper and screamed at them frequently. About eight years ago, before Yom Kippur, I decided I had to stop screaming because it was bad for them and for my own mental health. Since then, I’ve significantly reduced my yelling; sometimes, I raise my voice, but I mostly talk to them calmly. As a result, my kids are more calm, and our communication has improved and I am myself a different person.
In the Torah, Hashem creates the world through speech. In Hebrew, the word "דבר" (davar) illustrates this concept. For example the phrase "And Hashem said 'Let there be light,' and there was light", showing the power of Hashem's word to bring things into existence. Furthermore, "דבר" (davar) often refers to the commandments (דברי ה׳ - divrei Hashem) and teachings of Hashem, seen as fundamental truths shaping the world and guiding moral and spiritual life. Thus "davar" underscores the belief in the inherent power and creativity of Hashem's words, linking speech and existence profoundly.
My Rabbanite always says that if you see your children about to fall, never say "Be careful, you are going to fall," because the angel will hear you and your child will indeed fall. Words are so powerful, and we must be very careful with our speech because Hashem hears everything we say.
May we aspire to speak only positively, with love and kindness. May Hashem hear all our beautiful words. Amen.🙏
Wishing you all a wonderful day ❤️