Good morning ❤️
“Who is wise? He who learns from every person” Pirkei Avos 4:1
Ask around you what attitude have helped them remain calm or in control in situations that make you angry. Learn from people around you for the tools and techniques that help them remain calm.
Growing up, I was surrounded by a lot of yelling, and my communication style with my parents involved screaming. I earnestly prayed to meet someone who didn't yell, and Hashem blessed me with my husband. Raising my kids alone was challenging; mirroring my upbringing, I found myself yelling at them often.
It was tough for me, but even tougher for them. Realizing the impact, I decided to change. Few years ago before Yom Kippur, I made a commitment (Neder) to stop yelling at my kids. Since then, I've raised my voice at times, but I've refrained from yelling.
Having experienced a childhood where communication often involved yelling, I was determined not to subject my kids to the same environment.
Deepening my connection with Hashem has been immensely beneficial, and the support of my husband has played a significant role as well.
Each day, as we encounter distressing news, stories, comments, and videos, our Nechama is disturbed. It becomes a constant struggle with anger—from the loss of our soldiers to the ignorance displayed by a lot of people.
I'd like to emphasize that among us Jews, there's a unique practice of naming every single soldier who dies for our country,
an incredible tribute to each soul that fought for us. No other countries do that. It's a meaningful way to remember them and offer prayers for their memories.
Even in the darkest times, it's crucial to resist anger. As a united community, we must learn from one another to foster calmness and remove anger from our hearts. This is achievable by prioritizing Hashem in our lives.
Applying what we've learned about Bitachon and Emunah, it's time to put it into practice. Anger diminishes you; it clouds your thinking, prompts words you may not mean, sours your gut, and makes you grumpy.
May we begin our day with tranquility and calmness, feeling lighter, sharpening our minds, and enhancing focus to better conquer the day. With tranquility, we can serve Hashem and concentrate in our prayers.
That's what we all need to strive for. When you're calm, those around you tend to stay calm, feeling your positive energy. Let's all practice this, and I'll be the first one to commit.
May we all learn from one another, only the positivity and practice to remove anger from our daily life, now it’s when we show Hashem we can do it, when it’s difficult.
With a wonderful day ❤️