Good morning ❤️
Usually there are 2 fundamental principles that we can assume about people.
It is very important for them to be accepted by others and it’s very important for them not to be rejected by others.
People are willing to do many difficult things over a period of time, in order to win the acceptance of others. The suffering of rejection can be excruciating.
I've been conveying a crucial lesson to my kids: it's insignificant what others think of you. It doesn't alter who you are, and it's vital to stand by your true self. Changing your essence just to conform will never lead to genuine happiness. Embracing your authentic self is key; it allows you to be genuinely content.
Sadly, judgment from others is inevitable; that's human nature. However, what truly matters is being accepted by Hashem; that should be your primary focus. Performing mitzvot is empowering, it brings confidence and a sense of fulfillment, making external opinions inconsequential. The pressure to fit in fades away when you're guided by higher priorities.
When you realize with the great clarity the importance of doing mitzvah and grasp its eternal value and benefits, you won’t allow anyone’s negativity to stop you.
The pressure to fit in, whether from a young age or as we grow older, remains constant and can even intensify. It's challenging to force acceptance or invitations where they're not genuinely extended. Unfortunately, this drive for popularity or inclusion leads to immense pressure and anxiety, compelling individuals to mold themselves into someone they're not.
Growing up in an environment that was superficial, taught me not to concern myself overly with other people's opinions and focus on finding internal and mental happiness.
While my kids struggled to grasp this, I've always remind them on not being influenced by others' opinions. For me, fulfillment comes from knowing that Hashem observes and knows the truth.
Hashem, unlike human judgment, is compassionate and unwaveringly supportive. Impressiveness to Hashem stems from prayers, Torah study, performing mitzvot, and nurturing oneself to better care for others.
Being a good person holds the utmost importance, while the opinions of others become inconsequential in the grander scheme of life and its surroundings.
Our love for Hashem should be greater than the love we have for living.
You have to mentally practice this and you will never have the fear to don’t fit in. Your love for Hashem is enough and who ever wants to be next to you will do it out of love.
May you discover the inner strength to disregard the opinions of others, and may your love for Hashem surpass any external influence or judgment from those around you.
Wish you a wonderful day ❤️