Good morning Shavuatov 💗
Peace is one of the most beautiful words that there is. A person with inner peace has inner harmony. When our entire being is at harmony, we speak and act in ways that enable us to achieve.
On the other hand inner conflict creates stress and tension. If we have inner peace is a prerequisite for reaching our optimal level. The same applies to peace with others. When we interact peacefully, we bring out the best in ourselves and the best in other persons.
We all can have different goals, ideas, opinions, if we choose to interact peacefully and respectful your outcome will be completely different. If you decide to engage with one another aggressively will evolve fights, aggression, and conflict, and will end up in a fight.
I know that when you don’t agree in something it’s the hardest not to raise your voice and be calm, but the outcome will be totally different when taken into consideration to stay calm while having a discussion.
Growing up, my family experienced a lot of yelling, something I despised. I prayed daily to Hashem for the chance to create a different atmosphere for my own children.
When you study Torah, listen to classes, read Jewish history books, your Nechama changes, and you try as much as possible to follow the rules of Hashem. I have been reading a lot of Tehelim and it tells us to constantly seek peace. As Hillel states in Pirkei Avos “Love peace and pursue peace” Everyone should make peace a high priority. When peace becomes an important goal for you, many things which previously would cause quarrels, become much less important.
Rabbi Farhi once mentioned in a class that some seek his counsel after prolonged silence following forgotten disagreements. Holding onto insignificant matters shouldn't hinder communication.
Sometimes we hold on to stuff that’s not important, that shouldn’t stop us from talking to someone.
Pursuing peace means that at times you will have to go out of your way to apologize, Some people tend to view it as a sign of weakness. While in truth an apology is a manifestation of your inner strength.
If you teach that to your kids when they are really young they will have the ability to say sorry and feel good about it.
My kids are big in writing apology letters, they feel better then say it. Has long as they understand the importance to say sorry and move on.
No one should hold the grudge, Hashem teach us to be peaceful, filled with kindness and gratitude, you can’t do that with anger.
May Hashem way guide us to Seek Peace and pursue it amen 🙏
Wish you all a wonderful day ❤️